F**k You, Brooklyn! | BMS | Ep 037

Sep 18, 2018

Inside the topic of Power, today’s conversation is all about standing up for yourself. Coach Val and Coach Ani share personal and professional experiences which demonstrate the absolute necessity of standing with confidence and certainty in your power.

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For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month:

Week #1: Power

Week #2: Production

Week #3: Profit

Week #4: Protection

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In This Week’s Episode…..POWER

Point #1: Brooklyn, the Nose Picker

• Coach Val describes her eight-year-old daughter, Sawyer, as “the best student and a really good girl who never goes against the grain.” Recently, Sawyer’s fellow classmate made fun of her new braces.
• Val’s husband’s response to Sawyer when hearing about it was, “Fuck Brooklyn, she’s probably in her room picking her nose.” After more rude comments the following day, Sawyer repeated this to Brooklyn and got written up by her teacher.

QUESTION

Inside of your “stand up for you” moments, why is it so important for you to have those “fuck you” moments?

Point #2: Clarity vs Chaos

• It’s so important to have exact, clear paths and systems inside of your business, otherwise, you run into chaos, misunderstandings, and confrontations.
• It’s easier to push things off onto others rather than having those direct, hard conversations where you get to stand inside of your power and value your worth.

QUESTION

How clear are the systems inside of your business and family?

 

Point #3: Blowing Your Top?

• Coach Val: In reality, it’s not about yelling and screaming, it’s about having a conversation about the facts, feelings, and details in order to be crystal clear.
• Coach Ani: If you are not able to have a direct conversation with others, nothing is ever going to get solved. Your feelings will bubble up, fester, and get 100% worse.

QUESTION

What happens when you keep putting off talking about something?

Point #4: The Power of  No

• Part of standing in your power is not giving in to what a client says they want when, in your experience and heart of hearts, you know it’s not in their best interest.
• Your opinion as a professional is valued and trusted. You stand in your power as a professional when you guide your clients with confidence and certainty, while at the same time validating their feelings.

QUESTION

How do you feel when you stand in your power as a professional?

 

Point #5: Go to Battle

• Coach Val: Anytime you absolutely know something is right and will benefit everyone, that’s when you have to stand in your power, go to war, and fight for it.
• By course-correcting, having conversations and adjusting things, these serve to validate you and give you the strength to keep moving forward. It has a positive trickle effect in every aspect of your life.

QUESTION

Where in your world do you know you need to have a conversation that you’ve been putting off?

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Quote of the Week:

“Nothing resolves itself by not doing anything; there has to be some sort of a solution. Have that conversion, stand with integrity, and move forward with clarity.”

–Valerie Plunk

“At the end of the day, one of the reasons why you’re avoiding conversations is because you have a story in your head that says this: If you say something, everything is going to go sideways and be a fucking shit show. As you open up and move forward, you will be surprised by the outcome.”

–Anianne Rivera